Ever since I wrote my recent post about authenticity, I seem to keep coming across the most thoughtful, wonderful articles and interviews about what it means to live life authentically. It’s as if the universe is telling me to get on with it and start putting the real me out there more often. Now that I’m in my mid thirties, I think I know myself pretty well. I do, however, still find it challenging to speak and act in line with my values in situations that are not entirely comfortable for me. In order to keep moving forward I know that this needs to change.
Reading about something is, of course, by no means the same as doing it. I spent countless years devouring inspirational books about running without lacing up my own running shoes. I have, however, always found the insights and wisdom of others very helpful and inspiring, so I thought I would gather together and share some of the things I have read and listened to recently about authenticity.
The following extract is from the blog A Cup of Jo. The author’s mother emailed the following powerful advice to her daughter –
“It seems to me that being authentic is being brave enough or just candid enough to be honest about what you are experiencing or who you are, whether it is popular are not. A person gives a gift to other people when they say, ‘This is what happened to me or this is how I truly feel, no matter what the popular belief is about what I should feel.’ Whenever you are honest, you are speaking for a thousand silent people who don’t have the voice to say what they really feel or are really experiencing. So, if you ever talk about [the thing you went through], you will touch a million hearts. Because you are speaking for more than just yourself. You are never alone in what you are feeling. I love you.”
How beautiful. Joanna’s post, which she wrote soon after reading these words, is incredibly powerful and moving, and one that I’m sure will be helpful to many women.
Next, I’d like to share Kate James’ interview with Robert Rabbin, the person who changed her perception on what it means to really live life authentically. It is a lovely interview, which I listened to after a day that had left me feeling emotionally drained. I had remained silent during a difficult conversation, keeping my values and opinions safely locked away from the majority view. Kate’s interview helped me see that part of living authentically is having the courage to share your perspective even when it is difficult to do so. You can listen to the interview here and read Kate’s recent newsletter about interviewing Robert here.
Finally, I want to share two wonderful interviews with the queen of authenticity Brene Brown (here and here). And if you haven’t watched her TED talk yet it’s a must. In the spirit of authenticity, I have listened to Brene’s talk a number of times and it makes me cry every time!
Thank you again Cate. Your blogs are always a joy to read and without fail stay with me for days after as I ponder your words and the articles
you recommend. Xx
What a lovely comment to wake up to this morning Ekles – thank you! I’m so pleased you are enjoying the blog and it’s lovely of you to let me know. xx
Thanks for the mention Cate and for sharing the excerpt from Jo’s post. What a beautiful mother she has.
Thank you for your wonderful interview Kate! I found Joanna’s mother’s advice so beautiful – I’m glad you did too.
Gosh, where to start… well I guess it started with your post, following your links, and (having a couple of hours spare!) then I just kept on going and exploring and finding amazing stuff. In the last couple of hours I have laughed and cried and saved images and written down quotes and listened to podcasts… wow. Although I keep Brene’s TED talk close at hand I hadn’t seen those interviews before, which was great. Authenticity and vulnerability are a challenge for me but I’m realising how worthwhile they are to work on.
Apparently your blog post came along at just the perfect moment for me today, thanks!
Jo, how wonderful! I’m thrilled that my post set you off on a journey of discovery. I think authenticity and vulnerability are definitely big challenges for so many of us but I agree that they’re challenges that, although potentially uncomfortable and scary, are ultimately worth taking on.
Heya, fab post, really loved your thoughts. Brene is a fave of mine too. Have you read ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’? Would love to hear your thoughts.
Thank you Alice! Yes I have read the ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ and I loved it! It’s one I keep by my bed and dip into every now and again. Thanks for stopping by